Get What You Want By Focusing On What You Shouldn’t Do


During your downtime, do you catch yourself thinking about what you should be doing instead? Lori and I are working on shifting our language around those thoughts when they creep up and soaking up this time that we have in Wisconsin with our friends and family. It can be so easy to become the thief of your own peace by constantly focusing on what you should be doing to make more money and hit bigger goals. But, it’s so important to give yourself a break and enjoy the fruits of your labor. If you don’t, then why are you even hustling in the first place? 



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( 1:05 ) Welcome back to another He Said She Said episode of The Chris Harder Show.

( 1:42 ) Chris says, “We realize that we are so bad at ‘shoulding’ all over ourselves.”

( 2:16 ) Lori says, “I have so many moments where I’m noticing I am the robber of my peace.”

( 5:05 ) Chris says, “Ask yourself these two questions: For what? But why? And if there’s a legitimate answer, get to work. If there’s not, kick back, grab that cup of coffee again, and spend some time living life.”

( 5:50 ) Lori says, “I was thinking the other day about where a lot of my pain comes from, and it’s always from an expectation that is unmet.”

( 7:41 ) Lori shares a journaling exercise from Four Thousand Weeks

( 8:52 ) Chris and Lori thank the listeners for tuning in to another episode. 

I should take things
away in order
to have more space
or focus more
on the things
that I love.

You’re Going To Hear About:

  • Recognizing when you’re sabotaging your own joy and peace 
  • Looking at enjoyment as a sign that you’ll be able to collapse time when you tap back into work mode
  • Why making a better life is usually taking away things, not adding more to your to-do list
  • An eye-opening journaling exercise from Four Thousand Weeks that really helped us get clear on our priorities 

Resources Mentioned:

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