The “Up-Leveling” Trap and How To AVOID IT


We’re often told that if we want to get further and have more success we must start surrounding ourselves with those who are doing what we want to do or are doing bigger things. This is a good thing, however, when we continually spend time with these types of people we start falling into the “up-leveling trap,” which is comparison.

We start feeling like we’re not doing enough because we’re not where they are. But here’s the thing…mentors are supposed to be ahead of you! Don’t compare your journey to theirs. Be conscious of your own journey and love where you’re at.

“You have to pause and look back at how far you’ve come instead of looking at how far you have left to go.”

Be grateful that someone else has done it first and is willing to share how to get you there. Be grateful they’ve given you a “roadmap.”

“Be grateful for who you are and what you have right now and what you’re doing, but be equally excited about where you’re going.”

When you can find this balance between the two, you know you’re on a healthy journey to success and abundance.

The next time you find yourself about to fall into the up-leveling trap, do me (and yourself) a favor and make a conscious effort to stop comparison in its tracks. Catch your thoughts and meditate for five minutes in a quiet place. Think about and picture how far you’ve come in the last week, month, year and beyond. I promise it will shift your perspective and help ground you where you’re supposed to be.

It’s definitely normal for these thoughts to come up, but it is not OK to let them stop you, to wallow in them or let them be an excuse. Be grateful that others have paved the way for you and also allowed you to create your own unique path to success. And be assured that if you stay ambitiously on this path success and abundance will follow.

You’re Going To Hear About:

  • What the “up-leveling trap” is and how to avoid it
  • Why the gap between you and your mentors should be view as a roadmap
  • Why it’s important to have gratitude for your journey

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